In systemic family therapy, neurodiverse individuals are often the identified client. If a family therapist is not careful, the neuro differences can become the “problem” that family therapy is meant to solve. Such a goal is both impossible, as neuro differences are intrinsic to the person who has them, and ableist, as neuro differences come with both strengths and weaknesses. Furthermore, suppressing neuro differences can be harmful and stigmatizing. This presentation will examine both how ‘classic’ family therapy (structural, psychodynamic, and behavioral) sees neurodiverse individuals and offer alternative assumptions and practices for doing family therapy with neurodiverse families. Assumptions from Ross Greene’s Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (formerly Collaborative Problem Solving, or CPS) will be offered as alternatives to more classical assumptions in systemic practice. Issues of competing access needs in families with more than one neurodiverse family member will be addressed as well.